How to Handle Holidays Without Your Ex Boyfriend

Christmas is fast approaching, as well as New Years; times when you used to spend with your ex, now you have to look forward to being without. But is that such a bad thing? The holidays is a great time to spend with your closest family and friends, but instead of dwelling on an ex (as you might want to), use this time to get that make over you always wanted, or take the time to actually give yourself a card this Christmas.

Been saving all year for something and haven't had a chance to spend? Now's the time to spend a little on yourself and just enjoy your own company. You certainly don't need to wait until Christmas to be given gifts.

Remember as the year comes to an end, new opportunities awaits in 2009. Think about the things you want to accomplish in 2009 and get excited in thinking about whats to come.

You might want to give your ex a present, but unless you're friends, I would not think too much about this, unless its a simple card. Best not to worry about it unless he sends you something first.

Enjoy the holidays with new hope in your heart and be strong!

Can Playing Hard to Get, Bring Your Boyfriend Back?

Playing hard to get can have its place in the dating world, and it can work better than the opposite, which is chasing after your ex without shame. The truth is, if you want long-term success with your ex, it's best not to play hard to get in the hopes of bringing him back.

Why?

Making your boyfriend jealous might work for some but it is far risky and the consequences are not worth it in my opinion. You might get your ex's attention at first but once he is back with you, do you think he will stick around? Most likely not. There is little point to get your ex back via dishonest ways as this could and would poison your relationship further in the future.

If you want to get him back and build a sustainable relationship, you need to start by being honest and put aside the game playing. If honestly doesn't work out well, try to improve on yourself and move on... although that won't necessarily make your ex begging you to come back, you'll be surprised how effective it can be to get your boyfriend thinking about you. It's a good step in the right direction.

Also check out: How to Apologize Effectively to Your Ex

Is It Possible to Get Your Boyfriend Back? Steps to Get Him Back For Good

If you've been worried and wondering if it's possible to get your boyfriend back, then rest assured that's a big "YES". To get your boyfriend back, you'll need to realize that things are slightly different now then it was when you were together. You won't be able to persuade him back by begging or pleading. That might have worked in the past, but if your boyfriend has left, you'll need to try a different approach altogether.

The best thing to do at this time is to realize that you will be emotional and do things that you wouldn't normally do. Take a deep breath and consider why the relationship failed this time around. If you want him back, there's little point in persuading if you don't know why he left in the first place.

Know that you'll need to do some changes if you want the relationship to move forward. The only way that will happen is if you look within yourself and see if there are elements you are not happy with yourself. If you have let certain areas of your life slip away recently and you have been putting off dealing with them. Now is the time to deal with them.

Your relationship ending isn't the end of the world, and if you put all that energy into feeling like the victim, you will get yourself into situations where you ARE the victim. Take control of your life starting from now and realize you don't need someone else to make you happy.

Give you and your boyfriend some time apart and learn to appreciate what you have right now!

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When Ex-Boyfriends Try To Make You Jealous

Is your ex-boyfriend deliberately trying to make you jealous? Perhaps flaunting a new girl in front of your face and doing things to hurt you on purpose?

Are you having a difficult time remaining in no contact and not sure how to take it anymore?

No one said it was going to be easy and your ex-boyfriend is not making things any easier on you but does this mean they want you back?

Well, first if they’re deliberately trying to get revenge of some kind, they’re pretty immature in the first place and you probably should move on from them anyway.

If you still want them back however, you should really ask yourself why you want to be with someone who treats you so poorly?

Even if you did do something to deserve it, immature behaviour is a sign that someone hasn’t grown up yet and hence won’t appreciate a real deep and meaningful relationship; one that you probably want.

The best thing to do is to ignore their actions and move on as if you’re the MATURE one. Remember you don’t want to sink to their level. Acting immature will only make you look just as bad as them and if you want to go down that route, then you get everything you deserve.

When Your Ex Boyfriend Won’t Return Your Calls

Ever been in this situation? I know you want your ex back and you really want to call him to set things straight. You miss him dearly and want to see how he is doing, unfortunately he has not been returning your calls and you are getting frustrated. How can you get him to at least hear you out one last time?

First of all, the guy clearly wants to be left alone, at least for a week. He may be busy or he may be tossing up what he’s going to say. He doesn’t want to mislead you in anyway. Sometimes they are just trying to move on themselves.

There’s one thing you can do and it’s to STOP CALLING HIM. Yes I know it’s hard and you want to share your stories with someone, but you just have to suck it up and wait until he comes around himself.

Don’t just wait around expecting him to call all day. Go out and make yourself busy. Have enough planned that you’re getting your mind off your ex for the majority of the day.

Don’t try to spy on him through facebook or myspace or ask his friends nonchalantly about whether they have seen or heard from him. Word will get back to him and its even less of a reason for him to contact you. Stay out of his way and get on with your own life for now. Eventually he will come around and it’s usually much sooner than you think.

For more tips check out: How to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back.

Get Boyfriend Back: Should You Contact Him?

When the question of whether you should contact your ex or not comes up, you might be wondering what is the best time to contact your ex.

If you have just broken up, the best thing to do is to hold off immediate contact. As hard as it might be, it probably won’t do you a whole lot of good to start bugging your ex right now.

If however, your relationship ended WITHOUT closure and there are things you MUST say. Understandably it is best to give them a quick call or leave a quick message to get out what it is you need to get out. However, make it brief and after you’ve said your piece, leave it at that and hold off contact for at least a month or so.

The time period will vary depending on what your ex has said, but generally if your ex is not the one contacting you first, it means they are NOT ready to talk to you yet. It is perhaps best to not contact them at all, but instead wait to see whether they will contact you.

Why is this no contact period important?

You need to allow the relationship to have a ‘break’. Don’t mistake this to mean this is the absolute end and if they don’t hear from you they will forget about you. Far from it!

You want your ex to miss you. This time apart will not only allow them to see what they are missing, they will start to evaluate the relationship differently. Whether you believe that or not, this will be true no matter what you might hear from their friends or family.

For more information go to: Should I Keep in Contact With My Ex

Get Boyfriend Back: Does He Deserve You Back?

It’s hard getting dumped but sometimes simply being dumped makes you want him more no matter how wrong he might have treated you. While you’re wallowing in your own self-pity during this lonely period, you might be wondering why you’re not good enough for him. Why he doesn’t love you like you love him? You need to remember that it isn’t always YOU that is the problem. The first step to understanding where it all went wrong is to ask yourself was it right in the first place?

Did he really deserve you? Was your boyfriend always caring, loving, placed your needs ahead of his, treated you with respect and was open and honest with his feelings? If you were dumped out of the blue is it possible there might be someone else? Did you see signs something had gone awry the weeks leading up to the break up? And what do you think was REALLY wrong?

If your boyfriend has started looking elsewhere, perhaps you need to ask yourself whether YOU showed him the love and attention HE needed. If trust was one of the main issues that built up between the two of you, was it a fault on both sides? Or did one simply refuse to let go of the past?

You can not force him to come back to you but if you learn from this experience and grow to love and respect yourself, you have a good chance of not only developing a healthy new relationship but also look forward to a fresh friendship with your ex boyfriend.

It might hurt to be apart from him right now but look to the future and know that true love is still to be found, whether it is with your ex boyfriend or not.

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

You know you've made a mistake and somewhere along the way your once magical relationship came crashing down hard and you're left trying to pick up the pieces by yourself. Through the confusion and mess, the only thing that is certain is that you want to get your ex back. But how exactly do you do that?

In order to gain a new perspective on the relationship you need to first allow some distance to come between you and your ex. This might be less than desirably right now, but allowing time to cool off is important. You do not want to act on panic or emotions right now as those emotions are only the aftermath of the breakup and not exactly something you can trust wholeheartedly.

Do keep in contact with your ex to remind them you are still in their life. You also need to let them see you have changed and how you have changed. The only way to do that this is if you are still in constant contact with them.

Understand first of all why the relationship failed and what you can do to change that. Know that relationships take two to make them work, so after you allow yourself to change for the better, you need to speak with your ex and find out what it is they really want. Sometimes they simply don't want to try again for reasons of their own and you simply need to respect that.

Do try to go on with your life. It is not healthy to obsess over an ex on a daily basis. Try to involve other activities into your life and know that you will think of your ex occasionally but with time your wounds will heal. This might be counter-productive in getting your ex back but in fact this is merely the first step. Look after yourself first and know that your ex boyfriend wants to see you can survive without them.

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