When the question of whether you should contact your ex or not comes up, you might be wondering what is the best time to contact your ex.
If you have just broken up, the best thing to do is to hold off immediate contact. As hard as it might be, it probably won’t do you a whole lot of good to start bugging your ex right now.
If however, your relationship ended WITHOUT closure and there are things you MUST say. Understandably it is best to give them a quick call or leave a quick message to get out what it is you need to get out. However, make it brief and after you’ve said your piece, leave it at that and hold off contact for at least a month or so.
The time period will vary depending on what your ex has said, but generally if your ex is not the one contacting you first, it means they are NOT ready to talk to you yet. It is perhaps best to not contact them at all, but instead wait to see whether they will contact you.
Why is this no contact period important?
You need to allow the relationship to have a ‘break’. Don’t mistake this to mean this is the absolute end and if they don’t hear from you they will forget about you. Far from it!
You want your ex to miss you. This time apart will not only allow them to see what they are missing, they will start to evaluate the relationship differently. Whether you believe that or not, this will be true no matter what you might hear from their friends or family.
For more information go to: Should I Keep in Contact With My Ex
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