Friday, June 27, 2008

Get Boyfriend Back: Does He Deserve You Back?

It’s hard getting dumped but sometimes simply being dumped makes you want him more no matter how wrong he might have treated you. While you’re wallowing in your own self-pity during this lonely period, you might be wondering why you’re not good enough for him. Why he doesn’t love you like you love him? You need to remember that it isn’t always YOU that is the problem. The first step to understanding where it all went wrong is to ask yourself was it right in the first place?

Did he really deserve you? Was your boyfriend always caring, loving, placed your needs ahead of his, treated you with respect and was open and honest with his feelings? If you were dumped out of the blue is it possible there might be someone else? Did you see signs something had gone awry the weeks leading up to the break up? And what do you think was REALLY wrong?

If your boyfriend has started looking elsewhere, perhaps you need to ask yourself whether YOU showed him the love and attention HE needed. If trust was one of the main issues that built up between the two of you, was it a fault on both sides? Or did one simply refuse to let go of the past?

You can not force him to come back to you but if you learn from this experience and grow to love and respect yourself, you have a good chance of not only developing a healthy new relationship but also look forward to a fresh friendship with your ex boyfriend.

It might hurt to be apart from him right now but look to the future and know that true love is still to be found, whether it is with your ex boyfriend or not.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

You know you've made a mistake and somewhere along the way your once magical relationship came crashing down hard and you're left trying to pick up the pieces by yourself. Through the confusion and mess, the only thing that is certain is that you want to get your ex back. But how exactly do you do that?

In order to gain a new perspective on the relationship you need to first allow some distance to come between you and your ex. This might be less than desirably right now, but allowing time to cool off is important. You do not want to act on panic or emotions right now as those emotions are only the aftermath of the breakup and not exactly something you can trust wholeheartedly.

Do keep in contact with your ex to remind them you are still in their life. You also need to let them see you have changed and how you have changed. The only way to do that this is if you are still in constant contact with them.

Understand first of all why the relationship failed and what you can do to change that. Know that relationships take two to make them work, so after you allow yourself to change for the better, you need to speak with your ex and find out what it is they really want. Sometimes they simply don't want to try again for reasons of their own and you simply need to respect that.

Do try to go on with your life. It is not healthy to obsess over an ex on a daily basis. Try to involve other activities into your life and know that you will think of your ex occasionally but with time your wounds will heal. This might be counter-productive in getting your ex back but in fact this is merely the first step. Look after yourself first and know that your ex boyfriend wants to see you can survive without them.

To find out more about your opening moves to getting your ex back, check out Get Your Ex Back and around the middle there is a video that outlines exactly what you should do.